tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3147719773752098767.post7770907548269835007..comments2024-03-25T22:25:27.515+05:30Comments on Madly-in-Verse: Write...Edit...Publish... + IWSG October 2020 : Grave MistakeNilanjana Bosehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08656370320322301943noreply@blogger.comBlogger50125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3147719773752098767.post-58493109128985650112020-11-01T12:06:42.762+05:302020-11-01T12:06:42.762+05:30Thanks.Thanks.Nilanjana Bosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08656370320322301943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3147719773752098767.post-47854089189477789522020-10-31T08:33:48.202+05:302020-10-31T08:33:48.202+05:30Excellent piece. Well researched and well written,...Excellent piece. Well researched and well written, as always.Rebecca M. Douglasshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07260530063164127746noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3147719773752098767.post-15448861547816123222020-10-26T10:47:38.124+05:302020-10-26T10:47:38.124+05:30That is a wholly excruciating statistic! That is a wholly excruciating statistic! Nilanjana Bosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08656370320322301943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3147719773752098767.post-91144018495475498862020-10-26T10:38:02.017+05:302020-10-26T10:38:02.017+05:30It's traumatic for those who're left behin...It's traumatic for those who're left behind with a lifetime of guilt and regrets, apart from the terrible anguish the actual victim goes through before ending his/her life. Too much suffering!Nilanjana Bosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08656370320322301943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3147719773752098767.post-72582919960214579282020-10-26T10:34:57.834+05:302020-10-26T10:34:57.834+05:30Well yes, it's highly possible - history is al...Well yes, it's highly possible - history is always the story of the victor. As an Easterner, I've always found most of the history I was taught to be rather Eurocentric. <br /><br />I'm okay with any law that saves lives, but I do think suicide should not be stigmatised. As a society, we need to be far more sensitive to these cases, especially among young people. We still have a long Nilanjana Bosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08656370320322301943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3147719773752098767.post-29127275900002198862020-10-26T10:26:13.979+05:302020-10-26T10:26:13.979+05:30I too believe that they are in desperate crisis an...I too believe that they are in desperate crisis and not every crisis can be resolved. Minimising their pain as 'insanity' 'mental illness' and/or any number of other odd reasons is glib and uncalled for. Why the society has these blinkers on for abuse, poverty, trafficking, malnourishment, terminal disease and any number of excruciating situations but finds suicide so intolerable Nilanjana Bosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08656370320322301943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3147719773752098767.post-20310754607329632392020-10-26T10:18:28.571+05:302020-10-26T10:18:28.571+05:30I'm so sorry to hear that but so very glad he ...I'm so sorry to hear that but so very glad he was unsuccessful.Nilanjana Bosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08656370320322301943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3147719773752098767.post-87890521882458288002020-10-25T12:20:18.797+05:302020-10-25T12:20:18.797+05:30A very interesting read making me think beyond my ...A very interesting read making me think beyond my limited knowledge. It's so horrible to think that people feel there is no other way.Sallyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14090018804016223955noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3147719773752098767.post-87192133557428891312020-10-25T04:09:10.837+05:302020-10-25T04:09:10.837+05:30To my understanding, suicide is illegal in the Uni...To my understanding, suicide is illegal in the United States because of probable cause laws. If the police believe a person might be committing suicide, it's considered probably cause to break down a door to get to them to prevent the crime. Meaning it's really more of a loophole meant to save lives, not to make things worse for someone who is obviously in need of help. <br /><br />J Lenni Dornerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07961335286982498158noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3147719773752098767.post-37824018583217354122020-10-25T01:50:41.401+05:302020-10-25T01:50:41.401+05:30Nicely done Nila. This is a topic worth the specul...Nicely done Nila. This is a topic worth the speculation and research. I personally believe suicide is the right of any individual, and nobody should need "permission." But I'm a social worker, and I am glad there are counselors and hotlines and other avenues for people who are so depressed within a situation that the permanent solution seems the only option. Religion, and by dolorahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08715849844092553699noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3147719773752098767.post-22911900808137061272020-10-25T01:30:28.541+05:302020-10-25T01:30:28.541+05:30Such a deep subject! My brother attempted suicide...Such a deep subject! My brother attempted suicide some years ago so this was very moving and personal to me. Carrie Annhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08489203407621469236noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3147719773752098767.post-26899130529841271312020-10-24T21:13:30.855+05:302020-10-24T21:13:30.855+05:30We have a long way to go with understanding suicid...We have a long way to go with understanding suicide and its underlying motivations. I don't believe myself that all suicides can be lumped together under 'mental illness.' There are perfectly mentally healthy people who take that tragic path also for varied reasons. <br /><br />Thank you for sharing your thoughts here, I'm aware and deeply appreciative of how hard it must have Nilanjana Bosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08656370320322301943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3147719773752098767.post-2403744532107726982020-10-24T21:04:20.021+05:302020-10-24T21:04:20.021+05:30Thank you, Christopher.Thank you, Christopher.Nilanjana Bosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08656370320322301943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3147719773752098767.post-80367748857025729282020-10-24T21:03:50.464+05:302020-10-24T21:03:50.464+05:30Hi Hilary,
That's so true about the suffering...Hi Hilary,<br /><br />That's so true about the suffering of the one who dies ends with the suicide while family and friends suffer and try to figure out reasons for the rest of their lives - awful traumatic all round for all parties...van Gogh was the way he was, a super creative and difficult to live with personality. Maybe he would have been treated with more compassion if he had been born Nilanjana Bosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08656370320322301943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3147719773752098767.post-86974955424378345682020-10-24T20:10:41.456+05:302020-10-24T20:10:41.456+05:30This is such a sensitive and informative piece abo...This is such a sensitive and informative piece about a subject that carries so much stigma and avoidance. I've been touch by the suicide of family and friends, even had thoughts of it myself, at a time of deep despair. My personal motivation was not to die, but to stop the pain (hence the reason I'm still here, in part), however I think the motives are probably different for everyone Donna Hantonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14620841692960550354noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3147719773752098767.post-75836416326281305132020-10-23T23:06:38.532+05:302020-10-23T23:06:38.532+05:30An informative and well-researched piece. Well don...An informative and well-researched piece. Well done, Nilanjana.Christopher Scott Authorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08627870625577204377noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3147719773752098767.post-39697501209628969382020-10-23T12:44:57.380+05:302020-10-23T12:44:57.380+05:30Hi Nila - a very sad informative piece ... so true...Hi Nila - a very sad informative piece ... so true for so many ... many who feel they're at the end of their tether - nowhere else to go ... there is always a way - but it's never obvious and takes a really strong character to keep going. That young woman's note on her son ... 'he wanted to die that day' not for ever.<br /><br />The family and friends left behind have the Hilary Melton-Butcherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17596532480645510678noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3147719773752098767.post-12859952391597986792020-10-23T01:13:26.353+05:302020-10-23T01:13:26.353+05:30Van Gogh has been on my mind since Feb :) and the ...Van Gogh has been on my mind since Feb :) and the suicide of this young Indian film star has been on the loop in Indian media...so it seemed a natural choice.<br />From his millions of fans' pov, a terribly tragic mistake. Nilanjana Bosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08656370320322301943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3147719773752098767.post-60095596600949076462020-10-23T01:09:07.530+05:302020-10-23T01:09:07.530+05:30Thank you. Glad you liked it.Thank you. Glad you liked it.Nilanjana Bosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08656370320322301943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3147719773752098767.post-81478984037269539762020-10-23T01:08:33.397+05:302020-10-23T01:08:33.397+05:30Thank you for sharing yourself so openly here, I&#...Thank you for sharing yourself so openly here, I'm beyond moved that you did so.<br /> <br />In my limited experience, shaming people never gives the desired outcome, listening deeply while the person figures things out for himself/herself gets better results in the long term imo. Suicidal tendencies have many complex and difficult causes, not everything can be lumped under 'mental Nilanjana Bosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08656370320322301943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3147719773752098767.post-89936346087260868542020-10-23T00:48:51.446+05:302020-10-23T00:48:51.446+05:30I'm so sorry to know about your cousin. That m...I'm so sorry to know about your cousin. That must have been so hard! Families are our bedrock mostly but sometimes they can act contrary to their own interest. If we as a society did not insist on fitting people forcibly into neat little boxes many suicides could be saved.<br />I am utterly fascinated by van Gogh and I love that the Sparkle series has him in it. :)Nilanjana Bosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08656370320322301943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3147719773752098767.post-5805007443556714672020-10-23T00:28:09.725+05:302020-10-23T00:28:09.725+05:30Hi Nancy,
Thank you for sharing your story here. ...Hi Nancy,<br /><br />Thank you for sharing your story here. I'm so glad you've found something that works for you. Childhood abuse isn't easy to overcome, applaud your courage. <br /><br />I have seen depression up close in my extended family, non-artistic people suffer from it too. I know of entire families ruined by suicide. But people can come out of depression given the right helpNilanjana Bosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08656370320322301943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3147719773752098767.post-39131705081375310272020-10-23T00:15:51.513+05:302020-10-23T00:15:51.513+05:30Mental illness is not fully understood even now, t...Mental illness is not fully understood even now, there is so much stigma attached to it. Where I come from, everything is lumped under 'insanity' by most laypeople. Not a subject that's discussed openly either. <br />As far as Vincent goes, he was never properly diagnosed. He drank too much, he ate his own paints, he went without food, he cut off his ear. He was desperate. Would it Nilanjana Bosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08656370320322301943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3147719773752098767.post-82286420615052858362020-10-23T00:05:29.918+05:302020-10-23T00:05:29.918+05:30Absolutely! We are consistently failing the econom...Absolutely! We are consistently failing the economically and/or otherwise underprivileged segments of society. We need to shape up and step up, not just on this count but several other issues as well. The suicides amongst young people is just too devastating. Nilanjana Bosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08656370320322301943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3147719773752098767.post-45593450128532012372020-10-23T00:00:20.983+05:302020-10-23T00:00:20.983+05:30Yes, way above the average this year. A global tra...Yes, way above the average this year. A global tragedy. Thank you for being here.Nilanjana Bosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08656370320322301943noreply@blogger.com